Oookay, friends.
Let me preface this by saying I am new to blogging, and I am almost certainly doing things wrong. That’s fine. I’ll learn.
In Others’ Words is a moderated blog. I went back and forth about that, honestly. Until this morning I had never declined approval on a comment.
I consider myself fair game. You want to take me to task for something, or have strong opinions about something I’ve said- whatever. I’m certainly not going to only approve complimentary and supportive comments- that would be ridiculous.
I am drawing a line in the sand, though. Right here, right now.
Whatever the intention of this blog was when I started it, it has become a place where people are sharing their stories, sometimes for the very first time. There is BRAVERY happening here.
If you choose to denigrate someone who is sharing their truth and making themselves vulnerable, if you choose to name call, and shame, and judge someone other than me, let me be crystal clear- your comment will never see the light of day. Particularly if you do it from the cheap seats- hiding behind anonymity.
Save yourself some time. Go read a Brené Brown book. Go for a walk. Find something else to do, because I will not have it.
In possibly related news, I may or may not have watched one too many Olivia Pope clips on youtube this morning.
i *love* Brenne Brown! i think that there is an enormous difference between sharing an honest opinion and being a cruel person, who likely knows that they are being cruel if they need to hide behind anonymous. Frankly, i think you shouldn’t stand for attacks on you, either. 1. For your own benefit and 2. because it inhibits the feeling that this is a safe place (for everyone). i’m sorry someone lacked integrity.
I think attacks on me are fair. I only had one truly negative response to He Wrote it Down. I approved it, responded (I hope) respectfully- challenged him where I felt it was appropriate- and moved on. It’s important to me that readers know that just because I am okay with that for myself doesn’t mean I will stand for it when it comes to their stories- make sense?
It’s your blog! “Don’t you worry ’bout a thing.”
I will go all OLIVIA POPE on trolls. 😉
Rock Star! You go girl!
1. True
2. Necessary
3. Kind
It’s gotta be all three, or keep it in your head.
that’s the litmus test for every single post I write. Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
I thought “He Wrote It Down” was gutsy and fabulous and beautiful and full of truth and hurt. I was totally mesmerized while reading it and it should be applauded.
that’s so kind of you to say. xo
Brene Brown and Olivia Pope in one post. I know I’m going to like it around here.
Amen sister!!
Preach, girl. I love your enthusiasm and your protectiveness for your readers. Never let anyone tear you down.
And I’m totally in the same Olivia Pope boat…. I always get much better at making arguments after I watch some Scandal…
you Gladiator, you. xo
I’m so glad I started watching “Scandal” so I get all the Olivia Pope references now!
SO. GOOD. right???
May I second the gutsy, fab and beautiful commenter. I’ve worked in victim services and I was holding my breath hoping your officer was empathic and didn’t minimize your experiences. I salute your courage and know there are so many others who are silently suffering. You are and will be a heroine to countless people, young and old, male and female.
I was right there with you, Sue. HOPING the officer would step up! And he did!
So one gutsy decision birthed another. And another… and so it keeps going.
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“Go read a Brené Brown book” is a great response to almost everything 🙂
True fact.
I agree!!! Amen sista! This is why I love reading your blogs. they’re REAL! and it is scary. you go girl!
I’m so glad I found you through Momastery. When I read He Wrote it Down, I was so touched. So touched.
thank you- I’m so glad you’re here!
Perfect Response. Wise. You are providing healing and light.
Way to go~it is your blog and you can go OP on anyone that puts down anyone brave enough to share her/his story! <3
Trollers gonna troll. I appreciate the safe community….